Dating

You deserve to love and live after divorce. You deserve sex and intimacy after divorce!   Once those divorce papers are signed or perhaps after the initial separation between you and your ex, the idea of sex and intimacy after divorce…

  Emily Cowen, a musical artist I enjoy, sings, “Even though we just met, these feelings are so beautiful, you and me were meant to be together.” And that is where “love” songs get love wrong. You’ve just met; the feelings are…

What makes a man want to get married? In my decade-long dating after divorce journey, I met, talked with, dated, became friends with, and got into relationships with dozens of divorced men, so I feel like I know the divorced man…

  Do you express or, suppress your feelings? How one feels about their feelings and what they do with them can have either a positive or negative effect on their marriage. I had a conversation over the weekend with a friend and this…

  Many of us want to find delicious, deep love after divorce, but it’s hard to know when you are truly ready to really find the “right one.”  Dating after divorce can be weird and awkward. Most likely, it’s been a very long time since…

There is no way to count over the past twenty years how many times that question has been asked of me. But, for the first time in these past two decades, I am starting to ask that question myself now. Why haven’t I remarried?…

  For many of the people that seek counseling with me for ruptures in relationships, being able to apologize to a partner or ex-spouse is one of their biggest challenges. While there aren’t any simple solutions to a good apology, there…

  Not everyone who goes through a divorce has been blindsided or shocked to discover that their spouse wants out, but there are many that fall into this category. And by many, I mean predominantly men. This phenomenon is commonly…

  We all remember milestones from our life: our first kiss, the birth of a child, or buying our first home. With each event, we typically felt pride, happiness, and an increased sense of self-worth. Conversely, midlife transitions tend…

  In many ways, relationships are ruled by the routines partners establish for themselves. These patterns create a dynamic and a good, healthy partnership, or can subvert a couple’s chances at happiness and longevity. When I interview…