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Some Things I Never Do When Dating After 50
It was the New Year of 2020 and I lined up a series of first dates using Bumble, OK Cupid, and Tinder. I booked back-to-back dates with two different Pauls; coffee with a cute guy that requested pictures of my feet; drinks with a comedy…
When a Kiss is Easier than Saying ‘No Thank You.’
When I left the coffee shop with Jonathan, I had reached that moment on the date when I had to make a decision: how would I graciously end this?
We had matched on Bumble. We’d both attended Cornell and knew some of the same people.…
Why is Healing After Divorce so Hard?
If your divorce is finished, you might be kicking yourself.
I know I was.
Back in 2011, my year-long divorce was finalized, but I wasn’t jumping up and down and doing cartwheels.
I felt stuck.
Sure, I was going to therapy and had good…
When I Stopped Changing to Please Him
Every once in a while, Dad texts me…
Gin, “Just the Way You Are” came on the radio. Always think of you. Love you!
In 1977, Billy Joel’s breakout hit “Just the Way You Are” appealed to my thirteen-year-old naive romantic self. ‘Isn’t it…
The Real Reason For Divorce At Midlife
It’s no secret that midlife or “gray” divorce is skyrocketing. And, according to the AARP, 66 percent of these divorces — which have doubled since 1990 — are initiated by women. But the numbers, without any narrative, are just numbers.…
How to Follow Your Heart After Divorce
After your divorce, you may be tempted to follow your heart, quit your job, and do all of the things that you’ve seen in movies.
But if you’re like most divorced women, you’re probably still stuck in the same routine. The same…
Divorce is Normal
After four years and 158 days of separation, my attorney’s office sent this anti-climactic and business-like email:
“We received a certified copy of the Judgment of Divorce
from the Westchester County Clerk today.”
The news…
Can I Have a Do Over?
“Georgia, I swear I’ve never seen such a smile.” I hadn’t heard Boz Scaggs in years and suddenly all I could see was my younger self, with a whole future of unlimited possibilities available to her. It was a moment in time when anything…
The Love Bomb
“If you are going to call him, do it from a position of strength,” advised my single brother, after the man I was dating unceremoniously put our short-term relationship on “pause.” I wasn’t exactly sure what “pause” meant, but I felt a…
Riding to the Other Side
I inhale and downshift and give myself a silent high five as I climb the final hill back to my apartment.
When I left the house this morning for my hour long bike ride, the lump of tension was lodged, like it is daily, somewhere in my…