Thinking Divorce is Your Best Option

In a world where relationships are complex and multifaceted, contemplating divorce can be one of the most difficult decisions a person may face. Whether you’re grappling with irreconcilable differences, feeling unfulfilled, or experiencing significant challenges in your marriage, the thought of divorce can be overwhelming. However, if you are thinking divorce is your best option, it’s crucial to approach this decision with clarity and caution.

Here are seven essential tips to consider if you are thinking divorce may be your best option:

1. Evaluate Your Reasons:

Take the time to thoroughly evaluate your reasons for considering divorce. Are they based on long-standing issues, recent conflicts, or a combination of both? Understanding the underlying causes and assessing their significance can help you make a more informed decision.

2. Seek Counseling:

Before making any hasty decisions, consider seeking counseling, both individually and as a couple. A skilled mental health professional can provide valuable insights and strategies for navigating your emotions and relationship dynamics. Counseling can help you gain clarity, explore alternatives, and communicate effectively with your partner.

3. Explore Alternatives:

Divorce should be viewed as a last resort after exploring all possible alternatives. Consider options such as marital counseling, mediation, or a trial separation to see if reconciliation or compromise is possible. Exhausting these avenues shows a commitment to resolving issues constructively.

4. Consider the Impact:

Divorce has far-reaching consequences, not only for you and your spouse but also for any children involved, as well as extended family members. Reflect on the potential emotional, financial, and practical implications of divorce for everyone concerned. Be prepared to address these challenges proactively.

5. Prioritize Self-Care:

When contemplating divorce, prioritize self-care to keep your well-being. Engage in activities that nurture your physical, emotional, and mental health, whether it’s exercise, meditation, spending time with supportive friends, or pursuing hobbies. Taking care of yourself is essential during this challenging time.

6. Seek Legal Advice:

If you’re seriously considering divorce, seek guidance from a qualified family law attorney. Understanding your legal rights, obligations, and the divorce process is crucial for making informed decisions. A lawyer can give personalized advice based on your circumstances and help you navigate the complexities of divorce proceedings.

7. Be Prepared for Change:

Divorce is a significant life transition, and it’s essential to be prepared for the changes it entails. This includes adjusting to a new living arrangement, co-parenting responsibilities (if applicable), and financial restructuring. Embrace the support of family, friends, and professionals as you navigate this transformative journey.

Ultimately, the decision to pursue divorce is deeply personal and should be made with careful consideration and introspection. By following these tips, you can approach this challenging process with clarity, compassion, and resilience. Remember, while divorce may signal the end of one chapter, it also marks the beginning of a new journey towards healing, growth, and a brighter future.

Jason C. Tuchman is a divorce attorney at Kelly, Kelly, Marotta & Tuchman. assisting families with divorce and family law matters. He prides himself on his high efficacy rate as well as helping his clients through the divorce process with dignity and minimal cost, all while preserving their rights and protecting the interests of their children.

His experience in the field of family law runs the gamut of practice areas, including preparing and negotiating prenuptial, postnuptial and separation agreements, resolving custody and parenting time issues, analyzing equitable distribution and the division of marital assets and liabilities, including complex valuation issues, and addressing necessary spousal and child support issues for his clients.

Mr. Tuchman is Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney, a certification achieved by only 2% of attorneys in New Jersey. He is a court-qualified family law mediator and he is specially trained as a collaborative divorce attorney. He also volunteers his time as a panelist for the Matrimonial Early Settlement Program in Passaic County and he is a panel chair for the Matrimonial Early Settlement Program in Bergen County.

Mr. Tuchman received a Martindale-Hubbell Peer Review Rating based on his exemplary work in the field of Family Law, Mediation, Child Custody and Child Support. He was given an “AV Preeminent®” rating from his peers, which means that he is deemed to have very high professional ethics and legal ability in the field of New Jersey Family Law. Only lawyers with the highest ethical standards and professional ability receive this Martindale-Hubbell Peer Review Rating.

Mr. Tuchman is also a Legal Trainer for the Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS®) Program, a highly involved participatory training that is divided into two sections — the first of which consists of a specialized communication skills training, with the focus on integrating those skills in a client/session environment, and the second of which provides specific information regarding the Legal, Financial, Mental Health, and Real Estate fields, that are essential to the divorce process.