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My Ex is Angry and Bitter. Will it Ever Go Away?
Below is an e-mail I received from a woman who writes: “My ex is angry and bitter.”
Jackie, I am going on 2 years since my ex-husband and I have been separated. My ex went through a process of seeming okay with it, then briefly seemed…
Change is a Bitch:Tips to Cope with Fear of Change
Change is a bitch, isn’t it? It can feel strange, uncomfortable and scary. I think that fear of change is one of the biggest stressors of divorce. Whether your spouse left you or you left him, change is scary, and probably one of the…
20 things I wish I Told My Newly Separated Self
As I look back on myself as a newly separated 41 year-old–feeling scared and sad and angry and hopeless and lonely, I realize now how utterly lost I was. Those first several months going through a divorce with two young children were…
“My Ex Is In Love with someone else now
From a reader who writes,“My ex is in love with someone else now:”
I have a very difficult situation. My ex is in love with someone else now. I have been loving my ex wife for 20 years and I’m only 41. We separated about 5 years ago…
My Ex Hates Me: 8 Reasons He’s Angry
Have you ever just felt like, ‘My ex hates me’? Sure you have, and it’s frustrating. It’s hard to understand how a person who used to be your husband (or wife) can switch gears so abruptly in a divorce. What I mean by that is, once…
How Do You Stop Loving Someone?
We’ve all heard that divorce story…about the couple who went to court on the day of their divorce, and then after it was final got a hotel room and had sex. I have heard those stories, but never talked with anyone firsthand who…
Keep Hating Your Spouse. It’s Good For You
Are you one of those divorced people who is really hating your spouse? I mean deep hatred? If so, my advice is: keep hating your spouse. It’s good for you. Wait, what?!
I mean that in a very very sarcastic way. Let me explain.…
What’s Up With the Negative Self-Talk?
Ever talk to yourself? Of course you do. “Why am I being so stupid?” “Why did I say that to her?” “I hope I didn’t say anything dumb.” “This dress used to be fit so much better.” “I’m old.” “I screwed up again.” Sound familiar? I bet…
I Can’t Get Over My Ex. Yes You Can!
For some reason, right now I know a few different people who are recently broken up and telling me “I can’t get over my ex.” I have certainly been there, and so has every person who has ever gone through a divorce or been through a…
How to be independent in life after divorce- Divorced Girl Smiling
For many people, one of the scariest things about getting divorced is having to be much more independent. For example, I have a friend who moved right from her parent’s house into the home she shared with her husband for 30 years…